HOW TO HAVE A SEXY MENOPAUSE

The words sexy and menopause aren’t often seen in the same sentence and that is a shame because menopausal and perimenopausal folks still have a lot of years to enjoy a healthy and thriving sex life. Sure, our bodies are changing, and our hormones are in flux, but that doesn’t mean our sex lives have to end. Here is our advice for keeping things sexy and satisfying through menopause and beyond.



KEEP THOSE LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN

Be honest with your partner about how you’re feeling and what is going on with your body. It is incredibly normal and common to experience reduced libido and take longer to reach arousal, for vaginal dryness to creep up on you, and for mood swings or hot flashes to put a damper on your sexy times. The more they know what is going on with you, the more understanding they can be.

DON’T LET VAGINAL DRYNESS SLOW YOU DOWN

You may have been gushing rivers before menopause but with depleted estrogen often comes vaginal dryness and this is completely normal and common. Even if you have never used sexual lubricant before, now is the time to invest and there are so many great quality lubes out there now to help. Here are a few of our favorites, chosen for their superb moisturizing abilities and compatibility with vaginal flora:

Sliquid Naturals Satin Water Based Lubricant & Intimate Moisturizer

Pjur Original Bodyglide Silicone Based Lubricant

Good Clean Love Bio Match Restore Moisturizing Aloe Based Vaginal Lubricant

AN ORGASM A DAY KEEPS THE SYMPTOMS AT BAY

Hormone fluctuations can lead to all kinds of annoying symptoms like headaches, insomnia, and decreased libido.  If you have never owned a vibrator before, now is the time to invest because daily orgasms are a fantastic way to treat a number of menopausal symptoms. The rush of endorphins you get from an orgasm has been proven to shut down migraine pain. It also gets much needed blood flowing throughout the vagina which can help keep the vagina supple and healthy. The more you orgasm, the easier it will be to keep having orgasms and while partnered sex is wonderful, a vibrator can keep those orgasms coming even when you are alone. Here are a few of our favorites, chosen because they are discreet, quiet, and powerful.

Zumio X Powerful Oscillating Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

Lush Iris Warming Air Pulsation Dual Stimulation Vibrator

Le Wand Deux Twin Motor Rechargeable Waterproof Vibrator

Satisfyer Pro 2 Vibration Pressure Wave Clitoral Stimulator

TRY OUT SOME NEW POSITIONS

As we age, we often can’t comfortably achieve the types of positions we used to enjoy during sex. A sore back or knees can really slow you down, so think about investing in some sex furniture or props. Liberator makes some gorgeous shapes out of dense foam, covered in soft, waterproof (and washable) fabrics that will blend in with your bedroom décor and give you the boost you need to achieve comfortable positions and allow you to focus on pleasure. Here are a few of our absolute favorites:

Liberator Hipster Sex Positioning Cushion

Liberator Jaz Sex Positioning Cushion

Liberator Ramp Sex Positioning Cushion

Liberator Wedge 24 Inch Sex Positioning Cushion

GET CREATIVE AND ADVENTUROUS

Arousal can take a longer time after menopause, which can take the spontaneity out of your sex life. Items like sexy board games, massage oils, arousal gels, or wearable vibrators can let you take all the time you need for foreplay while still allowing for closeness and intimacy with your partner. Here are some that we absolutely love:

Pillow Talk Card Game by Calexotics

Exsens of Paris Hot Vanilla Warming Massage Oil

CG Lip Tease Kissable Clitoral Stimulant 1oz - Sinful Strawberry

We-Vibe Moxie Hands-Free Remote or App Controlled Wearable Vibrator

Of course, none of us experience the same menopause and if you feel that your symptoms are too overwhelming or uncomfortable, please speak with your doctor to find solutions that are right for you.