Betty's Guide to Stimulation and Delay Gels: When, Why, and How to Use Them
Stimulation and delay gels, creams, and lotions are a lot of fun in the bedroom. Still, they can also be a valuable tool for folks dealing with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, decreased arousal, or lack of natural vaginal lubrication. Let’s look at how they work and how to use them safely to get the most enjoyment.
WHAT IS A STIMULATION GEL?
These gels or creams are made specifically for the clitoris to pull blood to the surface and help with engorgement and stimulation. Although not lubricants, they can increase natural lubrication by increasing arousal.
You will see ingredients like capsaicin (which gives peppers their heat), menthol, niacin, arginine, and natural essential oils such as wintergreen, cinnamon, clove, and peppermint. Read the descriptions and ingredient lists carefully because each product is slightly different. Kama Sutra Intensify Warming Female Arousal Gel will give you a warming sensation, while On Arousal Oil by Sensuva gives a buzzing sensation. If you are looking for something gentler, you can try Intimate Earth Gentle Clitoral Gel, which is formulated with lower amounts of active ingredients for folks who are extremely sensitive. If you’re looking for a completely natural choice, Sliquid Organics Stimulating O Gel has no parabens or glycerin and is made of organic, natural ingredients. All the products we carry at Betty’s are body-safe and come from the very best manufacturers in the business of pleasure.
WHAT IS A DELAY GEL?
Delay gels are specifically meant for the penis and to delay ejaculation so that they can be an excellent tool for folks with premature ejaculation. They are a topical anesthetic that will help to slightly and temporarily desensitize the nerve endings of the penis. The most common delay gel ingredient is benzocaine, the active ingredient in many topical gels for oral ulcers. Our most popular delay gel is On Power Glide Penis Performance Enhancer.
PROCEED WITH CAUTION
These products contain ingredients that could cause allergic reactions. We strongly recommend following these guidelines for first-time use.
- Before using, do a patch test on the inside of your elbow and wait a few hours to gauge reactions. Don't proceed with the product if your skin turns red or you have a burning sensation.
- Use the product alone the first time so you can see how your clitoris or penis reacts to the ingredients
- Use VERY LITTLE the first time. The skin of your intimate areas is extremely sensitive and may react differently than your patch test. It is better to want to add more than frantically trying to rub off excess
HOW TO USE A STIMULATION GEL
These gels or creams are meant to be rubbed on the clitoris – the top, sides, and underneath the hood. Most start working right away, and you will begin to feel a warming or cooling sensation, but if not, wait a few minutes and continue to massage the area before you apply more. Some ingredients are slightly delayed before you start to feel them working, and you don’t want to overdo it accidentally. It is safe to reapply if you think it is beginning to lose its effectiveness over time. Never put a clitoral stimulating gel or cream in the vagina or anus.
HOW TO USE A DELAY GEL
Delay gels need to be applied 5 to 15 minutes before sexual intercourse, depending on each product’s directions. It is essential to take precautions before trying them out (see PROCEED WITH CAUTION above) so you know how you will react to the ingredients. Because you will most likely be using this for penetration, it’s a good idea to test it on your partner’s skin as well. Use the minimum amount recommended first and rub it into the shaft and head of the penis. Please wait until it is fully absorbed before you attempt penetrative intercourse.
